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Intrusive Thoughts, Anxiety & OCD

“I'm not really as interested in you feeling better. I'm more interested in you getting better at feeling.”

Jenna Overbaugh, LPC, Academy Of Self Help interview

Intrusive Thoughts, Anxiety & OCD — Jenna Overbaugh Interview (Academy Of Self Help)

Overview

The thought is not the whole problem

An intrusive thought can arrive as a sentence, image, impulse, sensation, feeling, or sudden doubt. It may be graphic, absurd, or completely at odds with who you understand yourself to be. That mismatch is why it can feel so urgent: if this thought is in my mind, what does it say about me?

Jenna Overbaugh's answer shifts the focus away from the content. People with and without OCD can have the same unwanted thoughts. What makes the experience sticky is the alarm attached to the thought and everything a person starts doing to make the alarm stop—checking, avoiding, confessing, reviewing, researching, asking, or arguing with the mind.

The goal, then, is not a perfectly quiet brain. It is a brain that can make noise without automatically directing your life.

Practices: approach discomfort, reduce compulsions, reduce avoidance

Core fears beneath many changing OCD themes

0–10

A scale for choosing challenging but manageable courage steps

The OCD Cycle

Why relief keeps the thought alive

OCD tends to run in a loop. A thought or sensation triggers distress. Distress creates an urgent need to know, fix, prevent, or neutralize. A compulsion brings short-term relief. The brain reads that relief as proof that the ritual worked—and that the original trigger must have been important and dangerous.

Trigger

A thought, image, urge, feeling, or doubt appears.

Alarm

Anxiety, disgust, guilt, shame, or uncertainty rises.

Compulsion

You check, avoid, review, reassure, or neutralize.

Brief relief

The alarm drops, reinforcing the cycle for next time.

Overbaugh puts it simply: the brain is always collecting evidence. Give a thought sustained attention and it learns that the thought is important. Organize your behavior around escaping it and the brain learns that it is dangerous.

Signs

Signs you may be caught in the loop

A list cannot diagnose OCD, but these patterns are worth discussing with an OCD-informed licensed professional:

An unwanted thought feels like evidence about your morality, identity, relationship, or safety.

You repeatedly ask people—or the internet—for reassurance, but the relief never lasts.

You replay memories or conversations to determine exactly what happened and what it means.

You test your feelings, attraction, intentions, body, or memory to see whether they feel right.

You avoid people, places, objects, media, or responsibilities that might trigger the thought.

You confess thoughts or minor actions to relieve guilt, even when confession creates new problems.

You replace a bad thought with a good one, count, pray, repeat, or follow private mental rules.

One worry resolves only for a new theme to take its place.

You understand the fear is unlikely, but cannot stop trying to reach complete certainty.

The cycle consumes time, causes intense distress, or gets in the way of the life you value.

Beyond the Stereotype

OCD can attach to almost anything

A theme describes what OCD is talking about, not a separate kind of person. Themes can overlap, disappear, and return in a different form.

Relationship OCD

What if this is the wrong relationship?

Doubt about attraction, compatibility, love, or whether a partner is right—followed by checking feelings, comparing, confessing, or asking for reassurance.

Harm OCD

What if I lose control?

Unwanted images, impulses, or thoughts about causing harm that feel especially frightening because they conflict with what the person values.

Moral or religious OCD

What if I am secretly bad?

A relentless need to know whether an action, memory, belief, or thought makes you immoral, dishonest, sinful, or dangerous.

Somatic OCD

What if I can never stop noticing this?

Attention locks onto breathing, blinking, swallowing, heartbeat, or another bodily process, along with fear that the awareness will never go away.

Existential OCD

What if reality is not what I think?

Unanswerable questions about existence, identity, consciousness, death, or reality become urgent problems the mind feels compelled to solve.

Contamination or checking OCD

What if I missed the danger?

The better-known forms: washing, checking, repeating, arranging, or trying to prevent a feared consequence through a ritual.

A Key Distinction

Anxiety vs. OCD

The line is not always obvious. Content that sounds realistic can still become part of an obsessive-compulsive cycle, so the function of the response matters as much as the topic of the fear.

Generalized anxiety

Worry often spreads across plausible, everyday concerns such as health, money, work, family, or the future.

Concern moves across several life areas
The mind tries to prepare for possible problems
Worry can feel difficult to control
A practical plan may sometimes resolve a specific concern

The OCD cycle

An intrusive doubt or sensation becomes fused with an urgent need to neutralize it or become completely certain.

The thought often feels inconsistent with your values
Compulsions may be physical or entirely mental
Relief from certainty-seeking is brief
The same question returns or changes themes

Anxiety and OCD can overlap. This comparison is educational, not a diagnostic test.

The Invisible Part

When thinking becomes the ritual

A compulsion does not have to be visible. Rumination can look like productive thinking while functioning as a ritual: the mind keeps revisiting a question because it expects one more pass to finally produce certainty.

Mental review, rehearsing, testing a memory, checking an emotional response, replacing a thought, researching, self-reassurance, and trying to logic a fear away can all serve the same purpose. Even monitoring whether the thought is gone keeps attention fixed on it.

Think of an intrusive thought as a bird landing on your head: its arrival is not a choice. The part you can practice changing is whether you keep feeding it material for a nest.

This is different from ordering yourself to stop thinking. Thought suppression often rebounds. The skill is allowing the question to be present without entering the courtroom, presenting evidence, and waiting for a final verdict.

Under the Theme

The five core fears Jenna returns to

Surface fears can be remarkably specific. Traced down, Overbaugh says they often lead to one of five broader fears:

Making an irreversible mistake

What if I do something I can never repair or recover from?

Being uncomfortable forever

What if this feeling, awareness, or uncertainty never ends?

Being alone forever

What if I lose the relationship or become permanently disconnected?

Being a bad person

What if this thought proves something terrible about who I am?

Dying

What if I fail to notice, prevent, or control a fatal danger?

Working only on one surface theme can leave the system playing whack-a-mole. The broader work is learning to tolerate uncertainty, doubt, and discomfort wherever they show up.

Common Confusions

What OCD gets mistaken for

Myth

Fact

OCD is mostly about handwashing, germs, or keeping things perfectly organized.

Those are real presentations, but OCD can attach to relationships, morality, religion, bodily sensations, identity, harm, sex, existence, and virtually anything else a person cares about.

A frightening thought must reveal a hidden wish or say something important about my character.

Intrusive thoughts are often ego-dystonic: they feel alarming precisely because they clash with a person's values. The thought is not the same thing as an intention or action.

If no one can see me performing a ritual, I cannot have compulsions.

Compulsions can be entirely mental—ruminating, reviewing, rehearsing, testing feelings, replacing a thought, or trying to reason your way to certainty.

The goal is to calm down as quickly as possible whenever anxiety appears.

Urgent attempts to feel better can teach the brain that the trigger was dangerous. Recovery builds the ability to feel discomfort without automatically escaping, neutralizing, or obeying it.

I need to answer the thought before I can move on.

OCD asks questions that certainty cannot permanently settle. Moving on without completing the argument is often the new response the brain needs to practice.

What Helps

How to get better at feeling

Overbaugh reduces the direction of treatment to approaching discomfort, reducing safety behaviors and compulsions, and reducing avoidance. In practice, that can look like this:

1
Map the loop
Notice the trigger, the intrusive thought or feeling, the urge for certainty, and the physical or mental behavior that briefly brings relief.
2
Build a manageable courage ladder
Choose a step that is challenging but workable—closer to a three or four than a ten on your own anxiety scale—and collect behavioral evidence that you can handle it.
3
Approach what anxiety taught you to avoid
With appropriate support, gradually make room for situations, sensations, and uncertainty instead of organizing life around getting away from them.
4
Reduce the safety behavior
Delay or resist the checking, reassurance, review, analysis, or ritual. The aim is not to force the thought out; it is to stop treating the thought like an emergency.
5
Practice willingness, repeatedly
Use the small space between an urge and a reaction to choose the life in front of you. Repetition—not one fearless moment—is what teaches the brain something new.

ERP exercises are individualized. A licensed therapist with specific OCD and ERP training can help you choose exposures that are appropriate, gradual, and focused on response prevention rather than flooding yourself or chasing reassurance in a new form.

The Therapist

Who is Jenna Overbaugh?

Jenna Overbaugh, LPC, is a licensed professional counselor who specializes in OCD, anxiety, and intrusive thoughts. She brings both clinical experience and lived experience to the work: in the interview, she describes childhood magical thinking, doing things in threes, and social anxiety as early versions of patterns she later learned to recognize through exposure and response prevention.

She has worked in OCD and anxiety treatment since 2008 and now creates practical education for people whose symptoms do not resemble the narrow, visible version of OCD most often shown on television. Her forthcoming book, Making Peace with a Noisy Mind, is a practical guide to OCD, spiraling thoughts, and uncertainty.

FAQ

Frequently asked questions

What is an intrusive thought?

An unwanted thought, image, impulse, urge, feeling, or idea that seems to arrive without permission. Intrusive thoughts are common; in OCD they become especially sticky and distressing because of the meaning attached to them and the compulsive response that follows.

Does having a violent or disturbing intrusive thought mean I want to act on it?

No. A thought is not an intention. OCD-related thoughts are often ego-dystonic, meaning they conflict with the person's values and feel distressing for that reason. If you are concerned about an actual intent to harm yourself or someone else, seek urgent professional help rather than using an article to assess the risk.

What is the difference between an obsession and a compulsion?

An obsession is an unwanted thought, image, urge, sensation, or doubt that creates distress. A compulsion is the behavior or mental act used to reduce that distress or prevent a feared outcome. The brief relief from the compulsion is what reinforces the cycle.

Can overthinking or rumination be a compulsion?

Yes. Replaying a conversation, testing a memory, planning every possibility, checking how you feel, or repeatedly trying to solve an unanswerable question can all function as mental compulsions when they are used to get certainty or neutralize distress.

How can I tell generalized anxiety from OCD?

Generalized anxiety often centers on plausible life concerns across several areas. OCD is marked by a cycle of obsessions and compulsions, which may be visible or entirely mental. The content alone does not always make the distinction clear, so a clinician with specific OCD experience is best placed to assess it.

What is exposure and response prevention (ERP)?

ERP is a specialized form of cognitive behavioral therapy. A person gradually faces a trigger or uncertainty while practicing not doing the compulsion that normally follows, so the brain can learn that discomfort can be tolerated without the ritual.

Why does trying not to think about something make it come back stronger?

Monitoring the mind for a forbidden thought keeps attention trained on it. That rebound is why the work is usually not about eliminating thoughts, but changing the attention, meaning, and behavior that follow them.

Can OCD themes change over time?

Yes. Jenna describes this as whack-a-mole: one theme may quiet down while another takes its place if the deeper intolerance of uncertainty, doubt, and discomfort remains untouched.

Is OCD treatable?

Yes. Effective treatment exists, and ERP is a first-line evidence-based therapy for OCD. Because mental compulsions and less stereotypical themes are easy to miss, look for a licensed clinician who has specific training and experience treating OCD.

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